Etiquette is a big subject so please take a few minutes to read through this section now, and prevent embarrassment later.

SWANITC Events does have event rules, please adhere to them.

 

• Please DO NOT email the event producer asking questions like how many ladies/men are going to be there; how many people attend these events; are hot people going to be there; what's the age of the people that are going to be there; are there going to be black/white people attending; the exact location of the event (exact locations are contained in confirmations emails), etc.  While all of our events are different, we try to keep the number between 15-30 people while offering a wide diversity, with something for everyone.  Our events are only as HOT as our guests make them, so we suggest you leave your inhibitions at home and come to engage and have a great time. 

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• Please DO NOT bring friends if they have not been cleared, are not on the Attendee List, and have not registered.  They will be denied entry at the door.  NOTE:  If you have a friend, partner, or group whom you think might fall in line with the vibe of the party and would like to invite them, please have them go through the same approval process that you did. If everyone were allowed to just attend our events then we could not call these events Exclusive, correct?  Every invitee/attendee was hand-picked by our SWANITC Staff.

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• Don’t arrive before or after the party Arrival Window times​

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• Leave your attitude, drama, inhibitions, and judgment at home

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• Ask before you smoke tobacco/420 products

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• While we are all adults, we recommend that guests always use a condom & lube (provided by us) when engaging in sex, when requested to do so, and don't pull one-off in the middle of the act.  Please do not ask SWANITC staff about guests' D&D status as we don't gather/maintain that information.  Safe sex is an individual responsibility and should be treated as such. 

 

• Place used condoms & lube (provided by us) and place wrappers in the trash after use, NOT ON THE FLOOR

 

• Don’t hang around the event location/venue​

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• ABSOLUTELY NO SEXING IN THE BATHROOM​

 

• Only engage in sex in designated areas

 

• Look and act discreetly when entering event location/venue

 

• Don't bring or use any cameras or videos

 

• Don't bring or use any illegal drugs

 

• Arrive clean. You should be freshly showered, and cleaned out, if planning on any ass play/penetration.  The only exception to this would be if you are attending a specific raunch-themed event, like a party focusing on scents or sweat.  NOTE:  We have everything you need should you need to be sure that you are CLEAN.  From showers, fresh towels, fleets, etc.  There is no reason that you should not be CLEAN.  Just ask one of our staff upon your arrival and we'll get you whatever you need.  

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• To avoid embarrassment and rejection from an event, please ensure that you meet the event's specific race/body type/age requirement (i.e. Black and/or Latino diaspora for our NOIR events, Slim, Athletic or Muscular body type, under 50m etc.).  While most of our events are all-inclusive, we do have certain events that cater to a specific demographic.   

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• Don't arrive drunk or drugged and don’t become drunk or drugged at the event. 

 

• Please be respectful of our time right before an event starts. We are often swamped with setting up. Please don't email or call an hour or two before to ask if the party is still on, or to find out who is coming. If you are unable to come for some reason, contact us in the most convenient way possible (email) to let us know by the deadline on the day of the event to avoid forfeiter of your registration fee.

 

• When you are asked to arrive within a certain timeframe, please do so. SWANITC Parties are different from a “regular” social gathering, where it’s often cool to arrive late. 

 

• At the door leading into the space, be discreet. When it's opened, just say hi and come in - please don't start talking about the party or sharing a sexy screen name or other info while you're still in the hallway or outside the door.

 

• Think about the guy/lady letting you in. For the moment, she/he is busy watching the door, check people in and it is inappropriate to make moves on him/her. If you know you can play with him/her later, it’s ok to flirt, but don’t expect much action from him/her while they're handling the door.

 

• As soon as you're inside and the door is closed behind you, you’ll need to show proof of registration. To keep things smooth and be ready to offer it, don’t just say, “Hi, Sophie” - this sort of info is not enough to identify you.  More, please have your registration receipt out with your ID and be ready to hand it to the door staff.

 

• For those events where donations at the door are allowed, make your donation in exact cash (donation + tax) ready at that moment you walk in, as you are getting checked in.  We WILL NOT have change at the door. 

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• Most of our events happen in two parts, a 2-hour cocktail/social setting (normally from 8-10 PM) then a more intimate sexual setting (10 pm - closing).  Once the 2nd half of the event starts, we ask all guests to slip into something more comfortable (event attire listed in the event posting).  Staff will give you a bag to place your items in.  Get into the clothing (or nude) you plan to wear for the evening, place everything else in the bag and hand the bad to the staff member to secure.

 

• Refrain from expectations. When you come into a room of naked people, you'll see some you would like to play with, and some you would not. Realistically, there will always be someone in a group that you do NOT want to play with. Your role as a sex participant should be to focus on what you like, minimize what you don't like, and through it all, BE COOL & RESPECTFUL about it.

 

• If you don't initially see what you like, you should pull yourself together. Stay and just hang out. Give yourself time to chill a little, grab a drink and take in the scene. A mature sex participant knows that the first twenty minutes of entering a room is nothing like the next twenty minutes or the next twenty minutes after that. Sex is taking place around you! Naturally, things like atmosphere and mood change quickly in this arena. What is especially not good is to leave shortly after entering. It not only makes you seem shallow, but it also leaves a terrible taste in literally everyone's mouth who is left behind. Imagine the sense of rejection that is felt by everyone remaining. It doesn't matter how hot they are, or how hot - or not - you are... when someone enters a participatory sex play scene and leaves shortly thereafter, the remaining people feel like shit. Because, as we all know, if you were witnessing The Hottest Sex You've Ever Seen, you definitely wouldn't be departing so soon. “But I didn’t want to be there!” you might think. Still... why should your manners go out the window, just because it’s a sex party? A polite person wouldn’t just pick up and leave immediately upon entering a “regular” social party. If nothing else, it’s about being respectful. So leaving quickly leaves a mark on you: everyone else can see that for you, this party is only about YOU, and what YOU want. Once a host realizes this, you stand little chance of being invited back. 

 

• In any sort of sex group play - whether it's a threesome, or small group, or whatever... you should consider what we call the “Twenty Minute Rule”. This basically means that you don’t want to monopolize someone for the whole party. It’s as inappropriate as if you went to a cocktail reception for two hours, and talked with one person the whole time. If you’re grooving on another person at a SWANITC Event, you should definitely enjoy them - but after a period of time, it may be better to exchange contact information for the future.

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• Be aware that at a sex party, asking someone out on a date can result in a very awkward situation. Many guests who attend SWANITC Events are not looking to date or find a relationship. Certainly, many of the guests at our event enjoy casual sex, group sex, or both, and may not be interested in anything different.

 

• If you do decide you'd like to see someone outside of a party, make that move yourself. Do not contact your host after an event, requesting another partygoer's information, or requesting that your host forward your info on to the other person.

 

• When a scene is taking place, whether it's sex or BDSM play (dom/sub, spanking, role play, etc), you should NOT interrupt/touch/interact without permission; and although it might be ok to witness, you should refrain from being loud.

 

• Even if you are on a mailing list for events, you’ll need to have registered for a particular event before you just show up. If you think you can show up at a party just because you have the address and know the date, you may not only be kicked out but also kicked off the invite list… permanently.

 

• Be sure to review our SWANITC Events Code of Conduct.